Being a human can be difficult at times. We feel as though we’re not good enough or someone else is better than us and our self-confidence can plummet. I think a lot of people (including myself) struggle with being confident in who they are or the way they look. Today I thought I’d share five steps to gain self-confidence.
01. Find a quote or verse and keep it close. Since I was young, I’ve always kept quotes or Bible verses written down or put in places where I can see them often. Although they are other’s words, they inspire me to be better, which encourages me and gives me confidence in myself that I can do whatever I set my mind to.
02. Find an activity you love and are good at. I’ve always had a love for being outside, wind blowing in my hair, so I love activities like longboarding and biking, which I think I’m naturally just good at (if being good at riding a bike is a thing? Gary thinks it is). Finding an activity you love and are good at will give you confidence in doing those things and will carry over into other activities you take part in.
03. Step away from social media. To be completely honest, social media is the cause (and jealousy is the root) of most of my problems these days. I compare myself to others – what I have, what I do, what I don’t have, what I don’t do – you get it. I think that there’s an abundance of people out there who feel this way. I have to remind myself constantly that life isn’t always peachy on the other side of the screen. Before you look at social media, remind yourself you’re not seeing the whole picture or take breaks from your social accounts for one day out of the week.
04. Use positive self-talk and positive mental imagery. I think we’re all guilty of talking to ourselves negatively. Instead of walking by the mirror and pointing out a feature that you may not like or something that you have negative feelings about, try pointing out one feature or characteristic about yourself that you do like and focus on it. This will allow you to see the positive aspects of yourself and will boost your self-confidence.
This may be odd to some, but I think most athletes (current or not) will understand this. When I played volleyball, I was always told to picture myself performing to the best of my ability. For example, I would mentally imagine myself serving the ball over the net and getting an ace. So, when I was actually on the court and it was my turn to serve, I would perform the way I had imagined because I had pictured myself performing it and doing great. I think it’s great to practice this in daily life. If you’re on your way to work, picture yourself getting all your work done and doing it correctly the first time around or imagine that you’ll have a great day. This will help you when you’re in the scenario you pictured and will give you the confidence to do things the way you imagined.
05. Believe you can. I’ve talked about believing in yourself before, but I don’t think I can say it enough: believe in yourself. Even if you don’t have the money or the skills to do something you want, if you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get yourself where you want to be. Facing your fears or obtaining a goal or following your dreams starts with believing that you can do it. When you believe in yourself, you will increase your self-confidence in whatever it is you choose to do.
When you have self-confidence, your thinking should change from “I don’t know if I can do it” to “actually, I can.”
What are your secrets to self-confidence?